When You Feel Not Good Enough for God

This video follows Sarah as Christopher Gomez helps her confront the lie that she is not good enough for God. It is for Christians who feel behind in life, compare their success to others, or struggle to believe God loves them equally. The session walks through prayer, inner healing, Scripture, and renewing the mind.

• Sarah connects the lie “I’m not good enough” to feeling behind in business, life, and personal goals.

• Christopher helps her identify a deeper belief that God may love others more when they appear more successful.

• The prayer process includes confessing the lies, renouncing them in Jesus’ name, and inviting the Holy Spirit to heal.

• Scripture is used to replace the lie with truth and support ongoing renewal of the mind.

• The session closes with encouragement about Sarah’s identity, authority, and calling as a beloved daughter of God.

Christopher Gomez: Welcome, everyone, to another meeting on Disarming Lies of the Enemy. I am your host, Christopher Gomez. We have two people here today, Bill and Sarah. We will go in order, starting with Sarah, and then we will go to Bill.

Today we are going to pray, disarm lies for roughly three people, go through announcements, and close in prayer.

Let us begin in prayer.

In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Praise your name, Lord Jesus Christ, King of everlasting glory. We give you all the honor, Father. We praise your name, God. We love you, Jesus. Thank you, God, for the freedom that only you can give to your beloved children.

St. Anthony of Padua, patron saint of lost things, we ask for your intercession. Help us find all the lies that Sarah and Bill may be believing that are wreaking havoc in their lives.

God, we ask for the intercession of St. Joseph, terror of demons, to smash out any demonic oppression in the lives of these beautiful siblings in Christ. We ask that these lies would be broken so they can walk in greater intimacy with the Savior of the world.

I pray this all through Jesus’ mighty and holy name. Amen.

I wanted to share a reflection. It is not a true story, but it reflects what often happens when lies steal, kill, and destroy from within.

As you hear it, consider whether any part of it resonates with your own story or reveals a belief that you may have quietly accepted.

Her name was Elise. If you met her, you would not immediately think she believed she was unloved. She was polished, responsible, and successful. She remembered birthdays, brought thoughtful gifts, showed up early, and stayed late.

But beneath the surface was a sentence that had been written across her soul when she was eight years old: I am not loved.

It was not spoken directly. Her father left when she was young, not with screaming, but with absence. Her mother, overwhelmed and bitter, became cold. Not abusive, just unavailable.

Elise learned early that emotions were inconvenient. Tears were weakness. Needs were burdens. So she stopped needing.

When she brought home straight A’s, her mother nodded. When she cleaned the house without being asked, there was silence. When she won a regional art award, her father did not show.

The conclusion formed quietly: If I were lovable, they would love me.

By high school, the lie had matured. Elise became an achiever. If she could not be loved for who she was, then she would be valued for what she did.

She learned to read rooms, adjust, perform, and become whatever people needed her to be.

In college, she dated men who were emotionally distant because that felt familiar. She chased affection like oxygen. But when someone showed genuine interest, she became suspicious.

Why would they love me? They must not really know me.

So she either clung too tightly, suffocating relationships, or sabotaged them before she could be abandoned.

By 35, she was exhausted. On paper, she had everything: a good job, a nice place to live, friends, and a curated social media presence filled with smiling photos. But at night, the silence was loud.

I am not loved.

That sentence shaped everything. When a friend canceled plans, she interpreted it as rejection. When a coworker offered feedback, she heard, “You’re not enough.” When a man pulled away, it confirmed what she believed about her unlovability.

The lie acted like a filter. It turned neutral events into proof. It turned kindness into suspicion. It turned intimacy into danger.

Because if she was not loved, then vulnerability was unsafe. So she built walls. The walls kept pain out, but they also kept love out.

The disaster was not loud. It was slow. She overworked, overgave, overapologized, and overperformed. But she never rested.

Rest requires believing that you are safe, and safety requires believing that you are loved.

One day, a friend gently confronted her and asked, “Why do you always assume people are about to leave you?”

She laughed it off, but that night she could not sleep. Why do I assume that?

For the first time, she traced the thread back to childhood, to the empty chair at the recital, to the closed bedroom door, and to the unanswered phone calls.

The lie had never been questioned. It had simply been accepted. And once accepted, it governed everything.

The tragedy was not that Elise was not loved. The tragedy was that she could not receive love. It had been offered many times through loyal friends, patient partners, and small mercies. But the lie interpreted love as temporary, conditional, and fragile.

So she lived like an orphan, even when surrounded by affection.

Here is the deeper truth: the most destructive lies are not the ones shouted at us. They are the ones we quietly agree with.

“I am not loved” became her identity. Identity directs destiny. All from one sentence.

The good news is that the turning point began when she allowed herself to ask, “What if that is not true? What if this is actually a lie of the enemy sent against me to steal, kill, and destroy my life?”

Lies lose power when exposed. Love can only heal when we are willing to open our hearts and examine the underlying reasons why we are acting the way we are acting.

Again, that is not a true story, but I know parts of it resonate with me.

Last gathering, I shared a similar video from Tony Robbins. I do not know if I agree with everything in Tony Robbins’ program, but in this podcast segment, he asked a guest to look around the room and look for brown things. Then he asked how many red things the person saw.

The conclusion was that through self-biases, we are always trying to confirm the things we already believe.

In the same way, this person started to turn non-brown things into brown things. If we have underlying lies that we believe about ourselves, and those lies came through trauma and demonic spirits, then we can begin to affirm other elements in our lives to make those lies feel real too.

In Elise’s example, you see that in her romantic relationships, social relationships, work relationships, and more.

It is so important to examine ourselves and find the places where we identify dysfunctional versions of ourselves. Once we determine what the lie is, we can break it through Scripture and begin rewiring our brains with truth.

God is truth, and Satan is the father of lies. So we have to go to the Word.

That is what we are doing today, and I am grateful for the opportunity to do that with you, Sarah and Bill.

Sarah, please go first and share what you feel has been the worst version of yourself over the last couple of weeks. Then we will work together to discern what the lies may be related to and go deeper into how they may affect your relationship with God.

Sarah, thank you for going first and sharing a little bit about your journey.

Sarah: Thank you. I do not know what to say about the worst version of myself, but I would say maybe thinking I am not good enough, or that I am not doing the best that I should do. I feel like I am at 90%. I do not know.

Christopher Gomez: Thank you for giving us more details on the discernment work you are doing, Sarah. Help me take a step back and identify more specifically what the dysfunction is.

The lie may be “I’m not good enough,” but I am curious about what that looks like in real life. Does it mean you do not go after greater opportunities at work? What do you feel when you are dysregulated?

For example, some of my coping mechanisms are eating and speeding. I can also get angry at my kids after a long day of work if they are being unruly.

Those are examples of what I am asking about. Let us start with the actual human action, and from there we can pray together into what may be going on under the surface.

Sarah: Like I said, I am a nurse, but I am also in business as a side hustle. Failing to meet the targets I set for myself really frustrates me.

Then I come home and see that everything looks wrong. I start noticing that something should have been there, or something is not in the right place. It feels chaotic. I do not know if that makes sense with the question you are asking.

Christopher Gomez: Before we progress, Sarah, I saw that Bill dropped. I know he is working during the day, so he may have gotten tied up. We can take a little more time to sit with this.

To summarize what I heard, with the side hustle, you feel those icky feelings of, “Am I where I am supposed to be in life? Have I done enough?”

Then the other example is that you get home at night and the house is not as clean as you would hope. Then you start to feel dysregulated because of that too. Did I get that right?

Sarah: Yes.

Christopher Gomez: I think we should parse these two things out separately. Does that make sense?

Sarah: Yes, it does.

Christopher Gomez: Let us start first with, “I am not where I need to be in life.”

Sister, have you prayed into that? What do you think the lie could be attached to, specifically with feeling unworthy or not far enough along?

Sarah: I prayed about it. I was asking God if I am really in the right place or position that He wants me to be, because I was feeling like maybe I could be wasting time in this when I should be doing something else, all for the glory of God.

I have really prayed about it, but I have not had a response that would guide my path or direct me if I am in the right place or the wrong place. That is my dilemma.

Christopher Gomez: I am going to keep digging here. Thank you for your patience.

If you feel like you are not where you need to be, then where do you need to be?

Sarah: Where I need to be is to have a bigger team working with me as an entrepreneur and to see the results from the goals I have set. Most of them I have not achieved as I thought I would.

Christopher Gomez: What I hear you saying, and I am listening to your heart more than your words, is that it is a transactional thought. It sounds like, “I am only loved when I succeed.”

That is a feeling I have.

Then that raises the question: why do you only feel loved when the perception is that you have succeeded? Why does it matter whether you have a company with 50 employees or endless money?

Why does it matter that if you do not have that level of success, you are not affirmed and loved for who you are?

Sarah: If you look around the kind of business we do, we are in partnership with many people. It is a multi-level type of business. Most of the time, when you are not achieving what others are achieving, association tends to remain with those who are your closest allies.

A lot of the time, many people tend to...

Christopher Gomez: No worries.

When I asked that follow-up question for you to go deeper, you started looking at other people. You started saying, “That is how people perceive me.”

But I am asking you to look inside. What does this have to do with you as God’s child?

I think you already hit it when we first started, before you got into the disorganized house or not feeling far enough along in business or life. I believe you hit it on the head: “I am only loved when I succeed.”

At the core of this is, “I am not good enough.”

If you felt worthy, you would not care what everyone else is doing. Jane drives a BMW and I drive a Honda. Sarah lives in a seven-bedroom house and I live in a three-bedroom house. Whatever it may be.

If you genuinely felt good about who you are, resting in your identity as a beloved daughter of the Most High God, it would not really matter what other people are doing around you. When you are secure in your identity, it does not matter in the same way.

Sarah: That is very true.

Christopher Gomez: It depends on what adjective you want to put on it: “I am not good enough,” “I am unworthy.” All of those seem like fair ways to describe the posture of your heart when you are feeling this way.

Does that make sense?

Sarah: It does.

Christopher Gomez: That is the bad news. The good news is that we are going to keep digging deeper to see if this is also affecting your relationship with God.

Say that lie is true. Say you are not good enough and God made you that way. What would that say about the person who created you to be not enough?

Sarah: I would probably say maybe He loves me less to create me like that.

Christopher Gomez: Right. Like God loves other people more because they have bigger houses, better cars, or those things.

Sarah: Right.

Christopher Gomez: That is fair. The good news is that we can break this through the inner healing process. Can I take you through that now, Sarah?

Sarah: Yes, I am listening.

Christopher Gomez: It will go beyond listening. You will actually process what I am going to say.

The first step is confessing the lies. Repeat after me.

God, I confess the lies.

Sarah: God, I confess the lies.

Christopher Gomez: That I am not good enough.

Sarah: That I am not good enough.

Christopher Gomez: And that you love me less than other people.

Sarah: And that you love me less than other people.

Christopher Gomez: I know that when I believe these lies...

Sarah: I know that when I believe these lies...

Christopher Gomez: It breaks our relationship.

Sarah: It breaks our relationship.

Christopher Gomez: And for that I am sorry.

Sarah: And for that I am sorry.

Christopher Gomez: In the name of Jesus Christ...

Sarah: In the name of Jesus Christ...

Christopher Gomez: I bind up the lie that I am not good enough.

Sarah: I bind up the lie that I am not good enough.

Christopher Gomez: And that God loves others more than me.

Sarah: And that God loves others more than me.

Christopher Gomez: And I send them to you, Jesus.

Sarah: And I send them to you, Jesus.

Christopher Gomez: To deal with them as you will.

Sarah: To deal with them as you will.

Christopher Gomez: Come, Holy Spirit.

Sarah: Come, Holy Spirit.

Christopher Gomez: And heal my heart.

Sarah: And heal my heart.

Christopher Gomez: In the places...

Sarah: In the places...

Christopher Gomez: Where these lies have been residing.

Sarah: Where these lies have been residing.

Christopher Gomez: Now you do not have to repeat after me. I am going to pray for you.

Lord Jesus Christ, I pray in Jesus’ mighty and holy name that you would heal Sarah’s heart where these lies have rested. Thank you, Father God.

Thank you, Lord, that she may know your love is equally poured out to every single human being in the world. When Jesus died on the cross, He died for everyone.

Scripture says, “For God so loved the world,” not “God so loved Dave” or “God so loved Elon Musk.” It says God so loved the world. God loves every single one of His children equally.

Thank you, Father God, for breaking off these lies right now in Jesus’ name and pouring out your healing balm onto her heart.

God, the thoughts “I am not good enough” and “God loves others more than me” are lies. Holy Spirit, what is truth?

As you ask that question of God, “God, what is truth?” He may bring to memory some amazing thing, maybe when you graduated with a degree or some victory you received in God.

Or if you have enlightened your mind by reading Scripture, God may highlight a certain verse that runs counter to these lies.

Sarah: Okay.

Christopher Gomez: I am going to sit with God in prayer and see if anything comes to mind. Sound good?

I love that. Thank you, God.

Sarah, have you ever heard of Psalm 45:2?

Sarah: Psalm 45:2? Maybe I know it. Maybe I do not.

Christopher Gomez: I will tell it to you now. It says, “You are the most excellent of men and your lips have been anointed with grace, since God has blessed you forever.”

So with “I am not good enough,” to me that seems to implode that lie.

The way I would take this is, “I am the most excellent of women. My lips have been anointed with grace, since God has blessed me forever.”

Sarah: I am the most excellent of women, and my lips have been anointed with grace, since God has blessed me forever.

Christopher Gomez: My point, my dear sister, is that the next step is to take a Scripture like that. I am not saying it has to be that one, but I am encouraging you because that is what came to mind for me.

Maybe you have a different Scripture in mind. The point is that whenever you start to feel that you are not good enough, that other people are more blessed than you, or that God must love them more because they have more financial resources, you do not allow your brain to go down that highway.

Instead, you say, “No, I am not going to allow those lies to manifest right now. I am going to believe what God says about me: I am the most excellent of women. My lips are anointed with grace, since God has blessed me forever.”

How does that sound?

Sarah: I will put that into practice. Sounds good.

Christopher Gomez: Dan probably told you that when we do a deliverance session, 10% of the work is praying against the demonic spirit and casting it out. But 90% of the work is renewing your mind.

Renewing our minds from the heartache and suffering we have gone through is a lifelong journey. It is realizing that when we accepted Christ as Lord and Savior and the Holy Spirit overshadowed us, we became new creations. The old man died, and now we walk in the world like Jesus Christ.

The challenge is that many of us came into the Kingdom after being raised by parents who were not loving or kind. Maybe they had a drinking problem or anger problem. It may not only be parents. It may be aunts, uncles, teachers, or people in leadership positions who we expected to love us the way we expect God to love us.

When they did not give us that same agape love, trauma happened. Out of that trauma, lies began forming inside our hearts, creating a dysfunctional world inside of us.

Today, as we identify and expose the lies, the next step is to take action. We will not allow those lies to manifest into greater dysfunction like the example with Elise. Instead, we dismantle them by blowing them up with Scripture.

Whenever you start to feel that way, keep hacking away at it: “I am the most excellent of women. My lips have been anointed with grace, for God has blessed me forever.”

Imagine if you speak that over yourself instead of saying, “I am not good enough” and “God loves other people more than me.” If “I am not loved” and “I am not good enough” are the broken record in your mind, they will keep playing.

If you keep believing that, you may not look for the most loving and supportive spouse. You may not look for bosses and people who will really champion and support you. You may choose people who reaffirm the lies that have been playing in your mind.

That is why it is so important to discern these things and make sure that when we find them, we take time in prayer and discernment to rewire our brains so we can bring heaven to earth instead of continuing to sit in the shielded version of life that demonic spirits create.

Does that make sense, Sarah?

Sarah: It does.

Christopher Gomez: Any questions on that?

Sarah: No question.

Christopher Gomez: Can I take a second to pray for you and see if there is anything else the Holy Spirit is highlighting?

Sarah: Yes.

Christopher Gomez: In the picture you have as your cover picture, Sarah, you have this yellow coat spread over your back.

Sarah: Yes.

Christopher Gomez: I feel like the Holy Spirit was highlighting that. What came to mind is the Scripture about the prodigal son. As soon as the son returned from eating pig slop and came back to his father’s house, his father was waiting for him on the horizon.

As soon as he returned, the father put a new cloak on him, put a ring on his finger, and replaced his sandals. I am sure there are more theological meanings for each of those things, but I see the cloak as a mantle of protection.

I feel like God is saying He is giving you a mantle of authority.

Here you are, Sarah, with the grace to educate yourself, grow in the healthcare industry, and do care that not many people have the grace to do. Not only that, but you also have a side business you are building.

I can see how God has graced you with authority to be His queen in this world. The enemy wants to steal those seedlings of gratitude, grace, and connection to God’s heart by making you focus on other things instead of keeping your eyes on God.

Think about being connected to the Creator of the universe, the One who created the moon, the stars, the galaxies, sand, oceans, dolphins, penguins, and all the diversity of creation. To know that He is your Father, your Abba, your Daddy, and that He has cloaked you in His authority.

The enemy wants you distracted from that authority. But the truth is that you are a queen, a priest, a king, and a prophetess. God has anointed you to walk in His power and authority in this world.

I bless you in walking in the authority of God. In the same way that God has helped me stop feeling unworthy and not good enough, I pray right now in Jesus’ mighty and holy name that the authority that comes with being a beloved daughter of the Most High God would accelerate in your life.

I pray that in the next week, God will make it clear and give you testimonies. I speak right now in Jesus’ name that people will come to you and ask, “Sarah, what do I do with this? Can you take over this area? You clearly know what is going on. You have the authority and the vision.”

I feel like you are going to receive growth opportunities and promotional opportunities. I speak right now in Jesus’ mighty and holy name that a promotion is forthcoming and that God will give you testimonies of growing in His authority.

In the next week, you will see a testimony of growing in your authority and receiving these opportunities. I speak that in Jesus’ mighty and holy name.

Sarah: Amen. Thank you, Jesus.

Christopher Gomez: Keep me posted, Sarah. We always love testimonies of our prophetic ministry. Keep us posted on how it builds, and know that I will also be praying and fasting for you, my dear sister.

Sarah: Thank you so much, Christopher. It is such a pleasure to have known this organization. A person I met at a prayer gathering told me, “Why do you not try this?” That is how I got here, and I am thankful to God that it happened.

Christopher Gomez: We love people who serve as ambassadors to the ministry. Please thank your friend.

It is such a great grace to serve the body of Christ with what, from my perspective, feels like a lost art: casting out demons and making sure we are not walking in lies, but walking in truth.

A couple of announcements: On Saturday morning, we gather at 7 a.m. Central Time for an accountability group called Consuming Fire. It helps people share what is really going on in their lives so we can be inspired by other people’s walks with the Holy Spirit and continue walking on the narrow path with God.

On Monday mornings, we ascend into heaven as a ministry together to see what God desires to do in our lives for the week ahead.

This past Monday, we felt a heavy word around resurrection, that God was resurrecting things that had seemingly died off. I have countless testimonies from this week that I could speak on, so praise God for that.

On Tuesday, April 7, we are having our first supernatural healing ministry call. This is specifically for physical ailments. If you have loved ones with cancer or terminal diseases, bring them on April 7 on Zoom.

One of our friends, Mark, who is incredibly anointed, will lead our physical healing calls for the ministry.

All of this information can be found through the QR code being shared now. Or you can go to our website at aiiih.org/generalinfo. That is where you can access this information, including a place to support our ministry financially if you feel blessed by the ministry.

With that said, let us close in prayer.

In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Lord Jesus Christ, I thank you for this time of gathering and intimacy with the body of Christ and with you. Father God, I pray in Jesus’ mighty and holy name that you would cover every prophetic word spoken today and impart grace from heaven.

Open the treasury of heaven to bless these words and bring new spiritual life into Sarah’s life right now. Thank you, Lord Jesus Christ, for your mercies are new every day.

We love you, Father God. We love you, Lord Jesus Christ. We pray this all through the mighty name of our blessed Lord Jesus Christ.

In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Thank you so much, Sarah, for being with us. Thank you to everyone joining us on social media. I hope you have an incredibly blessed rest of your week. Shalom.

Sarah: Thank you so much, Christopher.

Christopher Gomez: No problem. Take care.